Her Rules

In her boudoir, she is worshipped. That is the whole arrangement, and everything else is how.

Her Terms

She writes exactly what she wants — how she likes to be spoken to, looked after and loved; what is welcome and what is not. That is the invitation, and it is the only invitation. A man who cannot meet it does not ask.

Consent

Yes means yes, and only yes — hers to give, hers to take back at any moment, for any reason or none. Nothing is owed to anybody. An open boudoir is never an obligation.

He Asks

A man never assumes, never pushes, never writes twice before she has answered once. He asks to be welcomed; she reads his Portrait; she decides. Declined means declined, quietly, and he does not hear from her about it.

Privacy

Nobody sees her address. Nobody writes to her until she says so. What she shows — her photographs, her words, where she is, what she wants — is hers. Never share it, screenshot it, or repeat it outside her boudoir. Ever.

Discretion

Some people here are not free to be found. Treat every member as though that were true of them. Do not name a member to anybody, and do not try to learn more about somebody than they have chosen to tell you.

Her Safety

My Boudoir Life is for people who are 18 or over, and we check. We do not vet anybody beyond that. So use your own judgement about who you welcome and where: meet in public first, tell somebody you trust where you are going, and leave the moment anything feels wrong. Your safety comes before anybody’s feelings, including ours.

When A Man Forgets This

Block him — one press, and nothing tells him. Then write to us. A member who breaks this promise loses his membership, and we do not refund it.

You make this promise when you join. It is the door.